Sometimes you hear what you need to hear at the exact time you need to hear it. Aka an 'aha!' moment. I had one of those with my son Dane recently. Dane was listening to me vent about a particular situation with someone where my feelings didn't feel validated--I didn't feel heard. Dane listened and understood then simply said:
"Some people listen to reply. Some people listen to understand." Aha! How true! It was all I needed to hear to let the feelings go. And to understand that the other person was simply cueing up their response. It still hurt that they seemed to talk over me or gloss over my feelings but it made sense. Knowing that, almost expecting that, allowed me to change my expectations, gave me more power and more choice. May you hear what you need to hear at the exact time you need to hear it today. And may you be receptive to the changes it brings.
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Jana
4/28/2018 02:57:24 pm
Oh my gosh this is so true. I've been trying to listen to understand more lately. I used to be a listen to respond person.
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Fran
4/29/2018 02:02:59 am
How smart was Dane! ;-)
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